‘Despite all my willing her to, she did not draw a breath…’

 I will always feel the loss of my baby girl. Today it is 4th April 2011; she was stillborn on 1st April 2010, a little over a year ago. She was delivered at 35 weeks in the SPRING suite at St.Mary’s Maternity Unit, Poole, a beautiful baby with everything in the right place, perfect feet, dark hair (her brother was born with dark hair too). Despite all my willing her to, she did not draw a breath. I can see her in the basket looking like she was only sleeping and would wake presently and call for her mum. I am so glad we spent that, all too brief, time with her, held her and kissed her. She was buried at Hinton Park Woodland Burial Ground, a simple service with family and friends I carried her in her little casket to the Ladybird Garden, something I could do, and placed her in the ground. Even as I write this and remember, it feels unreal, as if it must be happening, have happened to someone else, not me. How can this have happened to me? We visit most Sundays putting fresh flowers on her grave. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I can’t. I could always stay there a little longer than I do. It is a lovely place, she is surrounded by nature: trees, flowers, wildlife and a lake close by, but she should be here at home surrounded by people who love her.

I went to work the day after the funeral and for two weeks I would go in each day, sit at my desk and do virtually nothing. Fortunately I work in a very supportive place and everyone worked around me until I was able to start functioning again.

Needless to say, my wife and I were both devastated and without our youngest son who was 18 months at the time and needs us to care for and look after him, I do not know how we would have coped, how we would have got out of bed each day. It took months before her clothes were taken out of the drawers and put away in the loft.

I am lucky to have a wonderful young son and we are expecting a girl in May. The loss of Saffron-Rose has made this pregnancy a more than usually anxious one and until we are holding her in our arms I cannot plan ahead, I cannot think beyond the next scan. The consultant, his team and the midwives at Bournemouth Maternity Hospital have been very good; we have had regular scans and midwife appointments and been able to drop in at the unit for a reassuring listen to her heart at almost anytime. The consultant has agreed with our plans to have a home birth.

This last year has, at times, been a struggle. I have regular counselling through SPRING and attend the SPRING open support meetings, both of which have helped me to keep going. Meeting other parents, helping them go through the same process at different stages and being helped has been an important part of the journey. I am not over her death, I never will be. This first anniversary is hard and probably future ones will be too.

‘I wanted to feel the pain for taking Finlay’s life….’

Everything was going well with my 2nd pregnancy, apart from the normal morning sickness and indigestion! We already have a 2 year old daughter, called Libby and all had gone well when I was pregnant with her. We had our 12 week scan, which was fine and we started to look forward to our new baby and getting excited about having a brother or sister for Libby.

When we went for our routine 20 week scan, we were told that the baby was in the wrong position for the sonographer to see the whole view of the heart, nothing to worry about, just that my belly button was in the way. I was asked to move around, go to the toilet etc, but they still could not view it, so we were asked back in 2 weeks time. Various sonographers had a very thorough look, but we were still told that they could not see everything they wanted to see on the heart. So we were asked to come back again to be scanned by the consultant. We had to wait until after Christmas for this appointment, but maybe, naively, we still didn’t really think that there was anything wrong. We turned up to the appointment and there were a few more people in the room than we had expected, which was when we started to worry. The consultant performed a very thorough and at times, silent scan, I can’t tell you what was going through my head, but I knew then that something was wrong. Then we were told that our baby had a serious heart condition, my world just fell around me, and my hopes and dreams for the future had been shattered.

We were transferred to the Princess Anne’s Maternity unit in Southampton for a cardiologist to scan and confirm the problem. I think I still had a glimmer of hope that they had made a mistake and that it wasn’t as bad as we thought, but no, the cardiologist and his team confirmed the worst, they explained the problem and what would happen if we went ahead with the pregnancy, but also explained about termination.

My head just went into a spin and I couldn’t believe the words we were hearing. Why us? And how could we even think about ending our baby’s life? But we both knew how serious the problem was and that if our baby was to live through the pregnancy there wasn’t much hope in the long run, we both knew what our gut instincts were telling us. After a very long, New Year bank holiday weekend, we had to go back to Southampton to tell them our decision and to start the process rolling. All the way to the hospital I could feel my baby moving and kicking, was this to tell me not to do it or that we were doing the right thing? The cardiologist rescanned me just to confirm their findings and also told us that our baby was a boy. We named him Finlay Andrew. Again, they confirmed the worst, that our little boy was seriously ill, so we came to the absolutely heart wrenching decision that the best thing was to end the pregnancy, to stop the pain and suffering before it started. I wish we had never had to make this decision and I felt so sick. By no means was this the easiest option, but I do believe it was the bravest. I also didn’t want to think about what was to happen over the next few days.

The consultants had explained to us that because we were nearly 24 weeks into the pregnancy that if they induced now, there may be a chance that Finlay may have lived through the labour, which would have been absolutely distressing for us and the midwives’, so they would inject Finlay to make sure that he died before the labour. I had said to Andrew that he may not want to be in the room, as I know what he is like with needles. All of the staff were brilliant and were there for me every step of the way. The cardiologist had asked if, when they were doing the injection, could they also try and unblock the valve as this would help their medical experience and help people like us in the future, to start with I thought, I don’t want my little boy to go through any more than is needed, but then I thought that at least it would be helping other people, unfortunately when they came to do this procedure Finlay was lying in the wrong position and were unable to carry it out. This then also upset me. I just don’t know where my strength came from to be able to lie there whilst they were doing this injection, because inside I was a crumbling wreck. I will never forget this day.

The next couple of days went by in a blur, I hated that I couldn’t feel Finlay move anymore and I went through every emotion possible, from ‘why us?’ Anger; ‘are we doing the right thing?’; ‘What if’s?’; ‘Is it something I’ve done?’. How can I live with myself for making this decision? Two days later we were admitted to the SPRING suite in Poole, a whole mix of emotions going through me. I really didn’t want to go through the labour knowing that Finlay was going to be born dead, but I also wanted it over and done with.

Even though we had arrived to go through the most devastating event in our whole life, the staff were all so nice and considerate and made us feel as comfortable as we could. It was a great relief to have the suite of rooms to ourselves. I was induced and it didn’t take long for the contractions to kick in, Andrew started not being able to cope then, but I was helpless. I had a couple of pain killers, but before I knew it I was in so much pain and was asking for an epidural. I don’t think the midwives believed how quickly everything was going. When I got downstairs to the delivery room, I was already 7cms dilated and too late for an epidural. The midwife gave me some pethidine and 2 minutes later Finlay was born, at 2.55pm, weighing 1lb 7oz.

Personally, I’m glad I didn’t have an epidural in the end because I wanted to feel the pain for taking Finlay’s life. I think then the reality kicked in for Andrew and he really couldn’t handle the situation. For me, because the pethidine kicked in after Finlay was born, I was enjoying my time with him, he was so beautiful. I remember everyone saying that we should remember as much as we could, take as many photos as we liked, hand prints/ footprints, hold him etc. Andrew found it very hard to look at or hold him to start with, but I suggested that he did hold him and kiss him otherwise he would regret it. He did this and now thanks me for making him do it. I wanted and will always want to remember every little part of Finlay. I’m so grateful for all the help from all the staff in Poole and Southampton. I’m glad we were able to spend so much time with Finlay, so now we have many loving and lasting memories.

The day after Finlay was born we had a little blessing and naming ceremony, by Declan the hospital chaplain, in the SPRING suite, with all of our family there. It was lovely and I’m so pleased that our families were able to see him and hold him so that they will also have a memory of him. After all, Finlay will always be a part of our family.

I can’t tell you how hard it was saying goodbye, I couldn’t control myself when I had to turn my back on him and walk away and leave empty handed. There are no words to express the love I have and will always have for Finlay. He will never be forgotten, and will always be my little sunbeam. I just wish I had got the chance to watch him grow up, but I know we have made the right decision. I was really worried about what everybody would think of our decision and how they would act around me, but I have been amazed at how supportive our family, friends and professionals have been.

When we went for our scan at 16 weeks our world completely fell apart…’

When my wife Michelle told me that she was pregnant I was so happy as it would be a little brother or sister for our first daughter Megan. When we went for our first scan at 12 weeks, the sonographer said she had difficulty at that point in measuring the limbs as the baby had folded its arms and legs. We did not really think anything of it and carried on as normal, however when we went for our scan at 16 weeks our world completely fell apart.

We had taken Megan in with us to see her little brother or sister. The sonographer took a long time doing the measurements and then she said that she needed to get someone else in, as she needed a second opinion, we knew then something was wrong. The staff were wonderful and took Megan off to do some colouring whilst the Senior Sonographer came in and had a look. We were advised at that point that the baby had a very severe form of dwarfism and that the prospects of survival were slim, but that we would have to come back the following Monday for the consultant to confirm and to advise how best to proceed.

That weekend was one of the worst in our lives dreading what was to come, but needing to be there for Megan. We chose to tell her straight away that there was something wrong with the baby as she is clever and would have picked up on something being wrong.

When we saw the Consultant on Monday he confirmed the views of the Sonographers. We later found that Katie had Thanatophoric Dysplasia a lethal form of dwarfism, which meant that if we had carried her to term she would have died soon after birth from respiratory failure. We met Gena from SPRING who went through what was going to happen and Michelle was given the first tablet to take and the arrangements were made to come back on the Wednesday. All I can remember of that time until Wednesday was a feeling of numbness and at times not knowing what to do or say to Michelle, except just being there with her and for her. It was really all I could do.

The staff were wonderful when we went back in and were really supportive, Gena especially. Katie Michelle Knight was born at 8.33pm on Wednesday 28th April 2010. She was so beautiful, but so tiny and fragile. We had her hand and footprints done and photographs taken with us. We stayed with her till the next day cuddling and holding her as much as possible until we finally had to say goodbye. We made sure she had a teddy to go with her and both gave her a kiss goodbye.

Now it is a year on and Michelle is expecting again and so far everything is going to plan. Going to the SPRING open support meetings and seeing Cindy for counselling has helped tremendously. The pain and hurt are still there, but you learn to live with it and it becomes part of you and will never go away. The hardest part about being a dad is that you cannot take any of the physical pain and anguish away, but the most important thing is that you are there for your partner and that both of you talk about how you are feeling and not bottle it away as it will just fester. I did not go to the first SPRING open support meeting with Michelle as I was working, but when she told me that there was another Dad there I promised to go to the next one and have been attending ever since.

‘What shocked my husband most was the realisation that I would have to experience labour and the delivery of a baby that was dead…’

Last year my husband and I made the single most distressing decision of our marriage. With medical support and advice we decided to have a medical termination. We had been for a routine 20 week scan. As I had already been for one at twelve weeks I thought it was just a formality but the sonographer saw a cyst like mass and said we were going to have to see the consultant. Two days later sitting with the consultant and his team it was the worst possible news. The scan had shown that our baby, Adam, had multiple tumours and other complications that could not be treated. In reaching the decision the consultant told us it would be the greatest act of kindness and in shock we agreed. We were ushered past lots of pregnant women in the waiting room to a small office with cups of teas and apologies for the lack of space and time to come to terms with what would happen next. It all happened so quickly after signing papers and being shown the SPRING suite I was given some medication and told to come back two days later.

What shocked my husband most was the realisation that I would have to experience labour and the delivery of a baby that was dead. On the morning I was so scared and frightened, the longest day of my life. But even high on morphine when I saw him, held him and touched him it was obvious he was a very poorly baby. When I got home it felt very strange as though I had got off the walk of life and everything else was carrying on as normal. We both handled grief in very different, and at times, difficult ways. Initially I was in a state of confusion. Had we done the right thing? Would I be judged and lose friends? Thousands of questions went round my head and the guilt, emptiness and longing continued. There were times when I didn’t want to carry on with life. I felt crushed, alone with my fears and there were, and still are many, many tears.

I had a relationship with Adam that no one else had been privileged to have and against all my religious beliefs I had chosen the time he died. I wanted answers as to why this happened to us? Why now? If there were an explanation would I come to terms with the situation differently? I never considered myself a deeply religious person, but when it really mattered I felt at odds with some of the doctrines of my Church. I still have faith and the God I believe in would not have wanted Adam to suffer.

I’m sorry that we were put in the position to have to make such a heart wrenching decision, but I still feel we made the right choice. As we approach Adam’s anniversary I still don’t have the answers, but I know things now that I would never have before, and I take some comfort in believing that this is what Adam came to show me. Throughout the year my family, friends and professionals have been amazingly supportive. To my surprise no one judged me and I didn’t lose friends. It has made me appreciate each day as a gift that’s why we call it the present. Through the greatest loss I discovered that you could grasp the fullness of life with both hands or watch it trickle through your fingers like grains of sand. Each day presents its own challenges and we all have a choice in how we deal with them one step at a time.

‘…there I was, sat holding my partner’s hand and watching as my baby’s heartbeat stopped, never to start again’

I’m not ashamed to say that I’m crying as I write this. That is the reality of losing a child. It is 1am on a Friday morning and you can’t always predict when it will hit you hard. My partner and I lost our baby daughter Mia on the 18th of July 2009, at 22 weeks. It was nerve racking to find out we were having a baby, but we were very happy and determined to raise a great child.

At our 20 week scan we were told that Mia wasn’t growing right and that she had a hole in her heart. Through subsequent trips to Southampton and then Poole we were left with the terrible decision to either terminate or let Mia struggle on to live no longer than 28 weeks. I won’t go in to details about procedures, but on the 16th of July 2009 there I was, sat holding my partner’s hand and watching as my baby’s heartbeat stopped, never to start again. I can honestly say this was, and is, the single worst moment of my life. Nothing prepares you for that. No parental book tells you the other side to pregnancy. I was devastated, but kept all my emotions intact for my partner’s sake – she needed me more than ever and that was all I could care about. The next three days were tough leading up to the birth; it is here that we first encountered the SPRING charity. The facilities donated by them at Poole Hospital are a godsend, I couldn’t imagine going through what we went through on a full maternity ward, with new babies and new mothers everywhere. The whole day of July 18th 2009 was tough, but I will never forget the short time I spent with Mia after she was born and all the support we received from midwives and SPRING counsellors. We now have a 12 week old baby girl, Lila Mia, born on Valentine’s Day 2011. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about Mia and I see her little face in Lila every time I look at her. I still tend to keep my emotions to myself, as a lot of men do. I’d like to say it gets easier or better, and it does in some ways, but there will be times when it grabs hold of you and won’t let go. It is then that SPRING can be there in any way you need; there is always someone willing to listen.

Thank you SPRING

‘My heart began to sink, the consultant switched off the machine and then it was confirmed…’

I just want to start by saying that I find it so difficult to put into words such a heart-breaking experience, as I can’t find the words to express how sad losing our child was, as I am sure most of you reading this will know. Over a year on and I still cry most days and not a day goes by when I don’t think about what our daughter might have looked like, or what she would be doing and saying.

In October 2010, my husband Pete and I were lucky enough to fall pregnant with our second child and even though I am a Type 1 diabetic I went through the pregnancy with no other complications. Also, we already have a beautiful 5 year old little girl, Isabelle.

On the eve of Sunday 19^th June 2011, we went to Poole Hospital to get ready for a routine C – section the following morning. My Husband had to take Isabelle home to bed, so after saying goodbye to a very excited daughter and husband, I settled down ready for the night.  A midwife came to check on me and to explain the routine for the following morning. She asked how I was and if I’d felt movement. After feeling anxious the whole day, I did ask the midwife to put me on a monitor as hadn’t felt much movement, well actually none at all on that day, but didn’t think anything of it. The midwife went to get a monitor and placed it on my tummy…then…nothing. I saw a look of slight panic on her face and I started to cry. Although she tried to reassure me and asked her colleague to come over and have another go, there was still no sound of that lovely baby’s heartbeat. The midwives walked me to a side room (which I now know was the SPRING suite), where a consultant was waiting with a scan machine. I was still holding out some hope that my baby was hiding, or being awkward, but on the other hand I had a very, very bad feeling.  The consultant scanned me, which at the time felt like hours, and I remember just looking at the worried look on everyone’s face. Then my heart began to sink, the consultant switched off the machine and then it was confirmed, “I am sorry, I can’t find a heartbeat” he said.

I screamed, I shouted, I cried and was also sick. What has happened? Why me? What have I done? So many questions ran through my head, and I went into shock and complete disbelief. Then the realisation came that I had to tell my husband and daughter. It was the worst feeling in the world as I felt like I had let so many people down. Without giving my husband any details, the midwife called him and asked him to come back to the hospital.  When he arrived he walked into the room with a smile on his face as he thought I had gone into labour, and then I had to break the news to him. It was devastating.

After a night of decision making and sadness we still decided to go ahead with the c-section the following day. Going through a natural labour knowing I wouldn’t be holding my live baby at the end of it would be even harder.

When Mollie was delivered, the room was so quiet as there was no hustle and bustle of excitement or people talking and most importantly no baby crying. We decided to have Mollie cleaned up before we held her, so when we were ready the midwife brought her to us.  What a sad, sickening moment, holding your baby knowing she will never experience the world, cry, walk, talk, go to school or enjoy life. However, we also felt so proud to have another beautiful daughter who also made us smile.

All of our immediate family had a cuddle with Mollie and as there was instant love for her, she felt part of the family straight away. The SPRING suite was our home for the next few days so our family and close friends were able to visit us and also meet and cuddle Mollie.

The next few days were a blur really, and so many decisions had to be made. Without the support of SPRING and of course, our family and friends, we would not have got through such a sad time.

In September 2011, the post mortem results came back saying the placenta had stopped working maybe a few days before I was due to give birth.  Although there was nothing I could have done differently or to prevent this from happening, there is still that guilty feeling.

In April 2012, my husband Pete, some family and friends made up Team Mollie and ran the Bournemouth 10K run in memory of Mollie to raise money for the SPRING charity, together with ‘Team Daisy’. It was a lovely day in memory of two beautiful babies.

It’s now September 2012, and we are ever so lucky to have a new addition to the family. Stanley Lucas Mitchell was born on 6 June 2012 and he is an absolute delight. Although we will always love and be so proud of our beautiful Mollie and will never ever forget her, Stanley has helped us move on from such a sad time in our lives.

‘She took her place in the hearts of our family….’

In the early hours of Monday 21 February 2011, after 41 weeks and five days of anticipation and excitement, our beautiful little baby was born – a 6lb 6oz girl we called Daisy Johnston. However, what was meant to be a joyous celebration of our firstborn child has been a nightmare. Despite a wonderful, complication-free pregnancy – so low risk, we opted for a homebirth – Daisy was stillborn. We’d lost her in the last few hours of labour.

Nick (my husband) and I had been trying to conceive for about four years. In fact, we were about to have IVF treatment when, as so often happens, we discovered we’d conceived naturally. Words can’t describe how ecstatic and blessed we felt. Despite trying for so long, it was still a surprise! Everything about the pregnancy was happy and easy – from telling our family and friends to not even getting a sniff of morning sickness.

Early on in the pregnancy a friend told me about hypnobirthing, a set of techniques to prepare for and cope with labour. It’s based on the principle that if mum is relaxed, then labour can be relaxed and there is less need for medical interventions. It might sound a bit hippy, but the more I read about it, the more it resonated with me. And I can honestly say it worked for us too. On Sunday 20 February at about 6.30pm, I felt what I thought were contractions. We called the hospital who told me to have a bath to see if the contractions continued, which they did. And so, at 9pm, we asked the hospital to send a midwife. The atmosphere in our house was exactly as we’d planned – relaxed and serene. The midwife confirmed I was in labour and we listened in to baby and heard a good, strong heartbeat. By now it was about 10.30pm and I was 3cm dilated. “You’re doing really well,” the midwife told us, “there’s going to be a baby here by the morning.” Nick got the birthing pool set up and I continued listening to my hypnobirthing CD.

Our first midwife left us about 11.30pm and we called for another about an hour later. By the time she arrived it was 1.30am and I was in the birthing pool. I was still coping really well with the contractions, although they had definitely intensified. I got out of the pool to use the loo and then the midwife examined me. To my surprise, I was fully dilated and she said before I started to push, we’d listen in to baby. That’s when our world fell apart. The midwife couldn’t find a heartbeat and we could see she looked as shocked and scared as us. The next few hours are a blur. The ambulance. Being rushed into a delivery room. The monitors. The doctors’ faces. Giving birth to our baby. Her lifeless body being placed on my chest and then being whisked away. Being told she’d died. Pure shock. Inconsolable grief. Nick calling our family. Their arrival at the hospital. You’re reading this, which means you know how it goes.

I describe the first few hours and days as being like a war-zone. We stumbled around like wounded soldiers – merely existing. My mantra was ‘nothing will ever be worse than those first 24 hours, maybe as bad, but never worse.’ Looking back, I don’t know how we survived – but we did. The love and support of our amazing family and friends definitely helped, as did the care and guidance we received from SPRING. At the end of that Monday, we moved into the SPRING Suite to spend two precious nights with our baby. Being able to bond as a family, to look adoringly at our beautiful girl, to hold her and share her with her grandparents, aunts and uncles was amazing. She took her place in the hearts of our family.

Returning home with empty arms was horrendous. I just remember going into the lounge and pulling a blanket over my head. At times, it felt like I’d never been pregnant, that we hadn’t had a baby. But the family and friends who stayed with us, and the messages, cards and flowers we received from others, gave us strength. People would say ‘no words will help’ but actually they did. Knowing people were feeling our pain, and thinking of us and Daisy, really did help.

We decided to let Daisy go for a post mortem – mainly because if there was an explanation for what happened, then we wanted to know, particularly as we want Daisy to be a big sister to other children we have in future. Strangely, this gave us time to plan a funeral that would be poignant and special. The ceremony was led by a wonderful humanist celebrant, and Nick and I read letters we’d written, and music was played that summed up our feelings of love and loss. It was a bittersweet occasion – so, so sad, but also rather beautiful as so much meaning was attached to such a little life.

Daisy’s legacy. At the same time, we wanted to do something truly positive and inspiring in Daisy’s name. Within a week of Daisy dying, Nick had signed up for the Bournemouth Bay 10K run, which was taking place on Sunday 3 April – Mothers’ Day. We told family and friends about the run and, to our amazement, a further 19 people had joined Team Daisy. The day itself was magical. Donned in Team Daisy t-shirts featuring a picture of our beautiful little girl, our team members literally ran Daisy around the streets of Bournemouth. The runners were of varying degrees of fitness, so they all came in at different times. This was great for the Team Daisy supporters. Dotted along the route, we cheered and shouted as each runner went by. Daisy was the talk of the town – and even got name-checked in the Daily Echo’s post event article! Best of all, Team Daisy was fundraising for SPRING – raising an unbelievable £10,000 (and still counting!). What an amazing legacy! As Nick said, Daisy has contributed more in her short little life than many people do in a lifetime. After the run, we had a garden party and hog-roast at our house. It was another opportunity to share Daisy with our family and friends – and to ensure she is never forgotten.

My world fell apart as he said “I’m afraid I can’t detect her heartbeat”.

On 7 September 2007 life was changed forever as I attended my first ante-natal appointment with the consultant at Mayday Hospital, Croydon. I was 39 weeks pregnant with my fourth child and was really excited at getting an appointment to be induced the following week. He asked me if I had been feeling plenty of movements and I said that I hadn’t felt many movements for the last couple of days, but that I had mentioned it to my midwife two days before and she was unconcerned as my baby’s heartbeat was, at that time, ‘a strong, healthy heartbeat’. As I lay on the bed and waited to hear the lovely sound of her heat beating away, my world fell apart as he said “I’m afraid I can’t detect her heartbeat”. I was sent to the scanning department straight away and then saw for myself the still image of my baby. It then felt like some kind of out of body experience that was happening to someone else. I somehow arrived in a delivery room and waited for my husband to arrive.

At 3.15am on Saturday 8 September 2007 my beautiful, perfect, baby girl Amy, arrived into the world. She was 6lb 11oz and had lots of lovely dark hair. We all waited to hear her cry, as even though we knew she wouldn’t we just hoped they were wrong. I held her and looked at her beautiful face, with eyes I would never see open to look up at me. As we left the hospital that morning I had to walk past all the women cradling their new babies in their arms while I left with a couple of leaflets. I remember thinking ‘WHY ME?’

As we walked into our house and were greeted by our other children, the look on their little faces will probably haunt me for the rest of my life, such sad confused faces looking for answers that we couldn’t give. Many people assume that having other children makes the death of a baby easier somehow, but my daughter Chloe kissed my bump every night for my whole pregnancy and said goodnight to Amy before she went to bed and explaining to her, and my other children, was the hardest thing I have ever had to do as a parent. Baby loss is devastating whatever the circumstances and it is a roller coaster of emotions that you have to ride every day. Sadly, not every hospital has a SPRING and I had no support until I discovered the SANDS online forum, which, I have to say, is a very dark place to find yourself in. I connected with parents who understood, but I find it very sad that in many areas this is the only type of support available.

I have since been blessed with a two ‘Rainbow Babies’ who have brought joy back into my life. I had Abby in Poole Maternity Unit last year and although any pregnancy after loss is extremely tough, I will always be grateful to Gena, the day unit midwives and SPRING for all the support they gave me.

Amy will forever be missed, but I now realize how precious life is and you should treasure it always.